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(CNN) -- Want to guarantee an invite to weddings beyond the one you're attending this weekend? Acting the part of a gracious, respectful guest is step one. Here's a cheat sheet for charming the bride and groom.

Wedding invitations are sent 6-8 weeks in advance. If you receive yours on the earlier side of this window, don't stash the RSVP card with the thought, "Oh, I have tons of time." If you do, most likely you'll forget all about it. Your official deadline to get it in the mail? Four weeks before the big day. Since wedding vendors will need a final head count from the happy couple 2-3 weeks in advance, there's no room for your RSVP to show up any closer than that to the wedding date. inline links

Don't accept a role in a wedding unless you're aware of your duties. In addition to gifts, attendants may need to contribute to the shower and help with the bachelor or bachelorette party. They're also responsible for their own attire, transportation, and often hotel rooms. The only one of these you may get to skip is hotel since traditional etiquette dictates that the bride and groom provide their attendants' lodgings. However, opinions still differ on this one so ask if you're unsure.

Of course your engaged friends would love if the entire wedding party attended the welcome party, the golf game arranged for the morning of the wedding, the luncheon afterward, the rehearsal dinner, and the after brunch. But that's a lot to ask. The extra events you should attend if invited are those directly connected to the wedding itself: The rehearsal, rehearsal dinner if at all possible, and any pre-wedding hair-and-makeup sessions. Attendants should place a high importance on bachelor party and bridal shower as well, but they are not required to attend.

Wedding invitations are addressed with a purpose and you're expected to read them as such. For example, "and Guest" means you're welcome to bring a companion whose name the bride and groom doesn't know. If only your name is written on the invitation? Only you are invited.

Similarly to the plus one situation, if children are invited, their names will be written on the invitation. The senders may list the children invididually, or they simply write "The Smith Family" meaning the whole gang is invited. Also to keep in mind: Some couples decide they aren't able to entertain kids younger than a certain age, so they may list an older child's name and not another, indicating that the youngest isn't invited. (They didn't just forget about baby.)

Making an entrance after the bride is not acceptable. Plan to be in your seat 30 minutes before official show time. If there is an unforeseen obstacle preventing you from getting to the ceremony on time -- heavy traffic, late babysitter, wardrobe malfunction (they do happen!) -- never interrupt a ceremony service. Wait until the the "I dos" are done and guests have left their seats to join the celebration.

Not every wedding dresscode is as straightforward as black-tie or casual. For everything in between, refer to this guide to wedding guest attire.

It's still a general rule not to sit in the first couple rows of pews at a church ceremony or rows at an outdoor affair. Ushers should be briefed about the most important people on the guest list who'll be taking those spots, so if you aren't sure where to sit, look to them for guidance.

The room where the bride is getting ready before the ceremony is often off-limits. Most times there's a sign on the door requesting privacy, or an usher that asks you don't enter. Even if there's no clear sign not to enter, try to resist the urge to pop your head in as the bride busily prepares for her big entrance. You'll have ample chances to offer congratulations after the ceremony, plus she'll be able to give you her full attention.

Your friends getting hitched are most likely not Brad and Angelina, but it doesn't mean they won't be annoyed if photos of their big day leak at an alarming rate -- especially if they aren't the most flattering. And just as your phone tends to distract you throughout the day, it's going to distract the bride and groom if you have it out at the ceremony. Let the happy couple see your smiling face instead of the back of your iPhone, and keep it in your pocket until reception time unless instructed otherwise.

Being called upon to say something witty, eloquent, touching, and profound before a room full of people can make even the most outgoing person tongue-tied. But when you really think about it, a good toast need only convey one story or message -- something simple and sincere. And there's no need to go on and on. The old adage applies: Keep it short and sweet.

"Open bar" does not mean all-you-can drink. It means that the bride and groom have offered to pay for your cocktails for the evening -- how kind of them! A wonderful way to show your gratitude is to indulge at an average pace so you can continue to celebrate the happy couple till the wee hours of the morning.

Once the DJ cranks up the music, it can be easy to forget you're partying on rented property. To score the space, the bride and groom took responsibility for keeping it intact by signing a contract and most likely putting down a deposit. To ensure they get their money back, your friends are looking to you to treat the location well.

To prevent the bride and groom (or most likely their wedding planner) from having to haul dozens of boxes back to the newlywed suite, mail your gift prior to the wedding to their home. Check to see if the stores at which they registered give guests the option to ship gifts directly to an address. They do? You're set!

Still have etiquette questions? Let us know in the comments below and we'll do our best to get an answer.