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Overcoming insecurities

Here are five DO'S for overcoming insecurities in relationships and finding your peace of mind:

DO value yourself more often. Focus on your talents, your strengths and your physical beauty.

DO understand that the other person has his or her own issues and nobody is perfect.

DO build trust with your partner so you feel comfortable to talk about your insecurities.

DO seek self-assurance for security. Start to challenge your own fears rather than accepting them.

DO focus on the good. Look for the signs of what is working in your relationship.

Love is one of life's greatest adventures. Live it, adore it. Acknowledge that sometimes it is just time to move on, but don't allow your insecurities keep you from having love in your life!

Dealing with rejection

Rejection might lead you to believe that you are unwanted, unworthy or not valuable. When this happens, you can lose your self-confidence and want to crawl into your cave until you feel strong once again. No matter how you react, no matter who you are, being rejected hurts. However, it is not all bad news as rejection can move you into a time of reflection where you think through new perspectives, which result in inner growth. It can be a helpful process as it allows you to learn about yourself. Stay positive, keep your sense of humor and rejection will wash over you. With a different outlook and attitude you can arm yourself with the tools to deal with rejection and continue living, loving and learning.

Don't let anger get out of control

There is a place for anger, as it can be constructive in warding off frightening situations, but in your intimate relationships, rarely will it be a positive exchange.

Temper tantrums can do real damage between you and your loved ones, damage that can be irreversible. And, apart from hurting those you love, you are also letting the toxins of anger build up in your body and are hurting yourself. It is not healthy to hold a grudge. If you have things in your life you feel angry about, let it go, and get on with living a healthy and loving existence. As difficult as it may be to see the good in a situation that you feel adverse about, if you look hard enough, you can generally find a silver lining. The first step to anger recovery is to recognize that you have an anger problem, and then to be proactive about getting help.

Forgiveness starts with you!

Gratitude and thankfulness is contagious, and it's the start of practicing forgiveness, which first of all starts with you. A powerful way to bring love, joy and abundance on all levels into your life is to practice being appreciative. It doesn't get any simpler.

Being thankful for the things you have in your life sets up a vibration of attracting more of what you want. Instead of searching for things you don't have, focus on being happy with what you already do have. Buy a journal and every day write down the things you have in your life to be thankful for. Once you form a habit of doing this, the experience of having an attitude of gratitude provide you with a happier and more loving day-to-day life.

When is giving too much, too much?

Every relationship needs a certain amount of compromise, but when is it too much?

1. Be prepared to give and take at some level. We are all individuals and no one is exactly the same, even twins.

2. Be careful of giving past the point of where you are comfortable. If you go past this point, then over time you will end up resenting the other person.

3. Weigh up if the give and take in your relationship is even, there needs to be equality at some level but it doesn't have to be one-for-one. For instance, maybe one of you provide more financial support and the other provides more organization around the home, or is more nurturing in some way.

4. If you feel you are always the person to reach out and give, and your partner does nothing, this could be true or you may not be giving them credit for what they do give. Make a list of the positive and negative traits and actions of your partner to get in touch with what the real situation is.

5. There needs to be a balance that you are both happy with and this can be different for both parties.

Start talking, because if one of you feels your partnership is out of balance, it will not fix itself!

Say it with feeling

Some people need to constantly hear the words, 'I Love You', and why not, if you love someone than what's so hard about telling them each and every day.

But when you've been together for a while, those three little words can become habitual and be said without the feeling of the words put behind them. Instead of uttering the words in a hurry as you rush out the door or finish a phone conversation, stop to be present with your partner and if you are face-to-face look into his or eyes and speak directly to their face. In other words, say it with feeling!

Your words and feelings need to match; otherwise there can be insincerity to your words. Next time you say, "I Love You", make sure it counts!

Actions speak louder than words

Not everyone is good at communicating with words, and in fact because of some people's upbringing they can find it difficult to be affectionate with words, and personal displays of affection life hugging, kissing and handholding. That doesn't mean they don't love you, it may be they are not comfortable with expressing their love verbally or in a tactile way.

There is more than one way to communicate, and some people are very good at showing others how they feel by their actions. If you know someone who is not good at expressing their feelings then watch what they do, it might just be that they are showing you their love in all sorts of other ways rather than voicing those three little words, 'I love you'.

How important is it to be right?

It may be nice to have the last word and feel you are right, but what cost do you pay for a self-righteous attitude.

Often people will say that they are always the one to hold the olive branch and smooth things over, and if this is you, then maybe you are the one who is better at communicating and you are the one who knows how to break the silence and bring things back into an open playing ground so you can discuss the issue and move forward.

It really doesn't matter who is right or wrong, or who reaches out first, what's important is that someone does, and as far as for who is right or wrong, remember, you are not going to agree with everyone 100% of the time, so be prepared to agree to disagree occasionally.

Focus on building resolutions skills, keep the big picture in focus at all times and learn how to live, love forgive and forget, and move past a misunderstanding or altercation.

I'm honest, but I'm also private

Honesty in a relationship is important. You want to feel you can trust your partner's word and know that he or she is not keeping crucial secrets from you.

Be careful of becoming possessive, because particularly in the early stage of a relationship, you or your partner may not want to divulge your whole life. Some people are very private and don't feel comfortable with telling their life story right up front. Relationships develop over time, and how long it takes for each person to open up and reveal more of themselves is entirely up to them and how comfortable they feel. Let a relationship take its natural course and don't be too quick to rush to the next phase. Getting to know each other is one of the most exciting and interesting stages of a union, enjoy the journey!

Are you in love with someone who is not available?

If you answered yes to this question, get out now! Too late for that? Here are a few things to consider.

1. Remember, talk is easy, if someone is makes promises that they will leave, they may, but in all honesty, they may not, and you need to be prepared for this.

2. This is a person who is cheating on their partner, so how do you know they will not do the same thing to you; in fact, many people who have affairs even cheat on their affair with someone else.

3. When you are in a triangle scenario, and you are the other person, you are forever looking over your shoulder.

4. If you really believe in your heart that this is a match made in heaven and if there was not someone else in the picture you would live happily ever after, then be prepared to walk away for now till he or she can commit to a more honest relationship with you.

5. If you are also married or unavailable, then you both need to sort out your lives before moving to the next stage.

It is about having respect for not only other people but also for you!