New Tips And Triks For You

THE NEW year is well underway and many single men and women are re-evaluating what they need to do to find love and attract the right person into their life this year.

While many singletons have the best of intentions, negative thought patterns, self-defeating behaviours and other mistakes hold too many people back from finding the right person for them.

Here are a few ideas on how to find and attract the right partner for you.

Be the person you want to attract

If you think all men and women are bad, well guess what? You will always attract bad men and women into your life.

Your thoughts, your behaviour, hopes, attitude and dreams send out a subtle "vibration signal" to the world, and you have to be in alignment with the person you want to attract into your life. Have you ever had a relationship where you felt a "connection?" That was because you were being the magnet to the other person.

You always receive and attract what you focus on. It's science. Who you are in the world is the most accurate indicator of your focus. If you want a certain kind of person, you have to be in alignment with them, as like attracts like.

Let go of any past issues and relationships

We all have our share of emotional issues and some of us have had some pain in past relationships. But unless we are first honest with ourselves and take responsibility to correct our own behaviours and patterns, we will continue to have problematic relationships.

Some people feel that the answer to get over a bad relationship is to immediately jump into a new relationship - but these emotional issues, bad habits and poor communication practices tend to get carried forward to all of our future relationships, and then a regular pattern occurs.

Think from a partner's perspective: if you were to have a relationship with yourself, what would you dislike about yourself? This would be a good start to identify any issues you may have as once you start to work on these areas, you will start to attract better quality relationships.

Avoid surrounding yourself with angry or hurt single friends

Did you know that who you surround yourself with is who you become? If your friends are angry, bitter and have loads of issues, then you most probably will develop the same issues as them.

Or even worse, you might find that you enjoy being entertained by negative drama. If you were in a loving, forgiving place, then you would most probably let them go out of your life.

Surround yourself with positive uplifting people who are adding value to your life and friends who are either married or in a solid relationship, as these are the ones you should talk to and emulate.

Have realistic expectations

Does your ideal type of partner really exist? Do any of your friends have this type of partner and what type of person must you be in order to attract this type of person?

For example, if you are searching for a quiet homebody who loves to stay home and cook dinner on the weekends, then someone who has a high profile public career wouldn't be a good choice.

Try to look for someone who reflects your own compatibilities, values and beliefs. If you have been single for a long while and your expectations are high, them maybe you need to review your list of expectations.

Write down ALL the qualities you are looking for in a partner. Which qualities are most important to you? Are there any qualities that are negotiable, or not? What can you not live without?

Do more to get people interested in you

Whether you are a professional, single parent or a devoted Christian, there is so much more you can do each day to attract the right type of partner into your life. Go on as many dates as possible (the Americans do this well - serial dating).

In order to get these dates you need to make time to find and attract the right partner. How much effort have you given yourself in the last three months?

If the answer is, "not a lot," then you need to decide to change by taking proactive action to make yourself available and approachable offline and online.

Remember that you are competing with other singles that want the same type of partner, so taking action will put you ahead of them.

Posted on: 17/02/2014 12:26 PM